Thought for a Thursday

Thought for a Thursday

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.”

- Jack Kornfield

Imagine if you were able speak to yourself in a way that mirrored the language you use with a beloved friend. How much different would you feel if you treated yourself with as much care as you do those you love and respect?

Self-compassion is an attribute that heals your soul and allows you to move forward from mistakes with loving forgiveness. It is not always easy, yet it is always worth the effort. As you practice creating a better relationship with yourself, you are bound to notice an improved outlook in all facets of your life.

Thought for a Thursday

Thought for a Thursday

“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs, and habits – anything that kept me small. Now I see it as self-loving.”

- Kim McMillen

Do you ever stumble upon a thought or quote that seems directly related to you and your unique experiences? Because I have been working at giving myself permission to say no to things that are not fulfilling and working for me, I am finding opportunities to pursue things that are of more intrinsic worth. And while difficult, I recognize as a I leave things that are not working, I feel more self-compassion and have more space in my heart to accept myself and honor the person I am striving to become.

Give yourself permission to decline an invitation, to walk away from a draining relationship, to turn away from what is not working in your life. In the process, you might give yourself more time and freedom to care for yourself.

Thought for a Thursday

Thought for a Thursday

"You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out, and you get loose in your joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."

 - Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit


Becoming. Being. Words that sound either peaceful or frightening, depending on where you are in your life and in your acceptance of yourself. I have heard the inability to "be" described as a spiritual crisis - as in, it is a fundamental rejection of and break from our authentic, raw, messy self. Which is the ME we are meant to be. When we cannot Be, we cannot Become. And if we listen to the wisdom held in this children's book (one of my favorites!), if we cannot Become, we cannot be Real.

I want to be Real, even if it means that my fur is loved off and my joints are loose, because my heart will be rid of the shame of being seen, and filled with a compassionate love for myself. THEN I can offer Real love to those I love most.

Thought for a Thursday

Thought for a Thursday

Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak. Courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.

– Winston Churchill


I would venture to say the vast majority of us are devastated to learn of yet another instance where young lives were taken too soon in a tragic set of circumstances. I want to be open to the idea of change, and I think that others have insight and knowledge that will add to discussions that must take place. Each of us have a voice, and we should be encouraged to not only use it in clear and thoughtful ways but to also ask for insight from others. This is how we can move forward, honoring both the speaker and the listener.

Thought for a Thursday

"Every day is a chance to begin again. Don't focus on the failures of yesterday, start today with positive thoughts and expectations." 

-Catherine Pulsifer

Oftentimes I get so bogged down in the ways I did not meet my expectations or how I fell short; I fixate on an ever-growing to-do list, rather than taking a moment to own and feel my successes. Maybe that is a reason this quote resonated with me, in accepting the precept that everyday is a fresh start, it provides me with renewed hope and gives me the opportunity to choose how I approach each and every day. I don't need a new year, or the beginning of a new week, or even a specific goal or resolution. Each day I can choose to focus on my abilities and the hope for a new day.

Upcoming Changes

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What is "self-care?"

This is a great read!

"True self -care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don't need to regularly escape from."

It's the new year. A time of resolutions, goals, and renewed connection to what is important. It is easy for self-care to quickly get lost in the busyness of daily life, becoming hollow and ineffective. Like a band-aid on a wound that actually needs stitches to heal. Instead, what if we tenderly took stock of areas of our heart, mind, soul, and/or body that are weary and gave ourselves what we need to heal and thrive? It is not always pretty, but doesn't it sound great to build a life you don't need to escape from?

Challenge: Let 2018 be a year of true self-care. What is one small step you can take to truly care for yourself in the new year?


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